The scene - I was walking into Von's (wearing my No on 8 t-shirt) and a man was collecting money for a halfway house.
Me: Sorry I don't have any cash but good luck today. (I walk to get a shopping cart)
Man: Did you vote no on 8?
Me: Absolutely!
Man: Prop 8 was about gay marriage right?
Me: Yes. I got married.
Man: To a man?
Me: No to a woman.
Man: But you voted no.
Me: A no vote meant you supported gay marriage
Man: (puzzled look) why did you do it? (he meant marry a woman)
Me: Are you married?
Man: Yes
Me: To you woman?
Man: Of course
Me: Well, why did you marry her?
Man: Because I loved her.
Me: Me too!
Man: Oh...Oh...Oh
Showing posts with label Prop 8. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Prop 8. Show all posts
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
Saturday, August 22, 2009
Marriage Equality: You Don't Have Be Gay to Be OUT!
Conversations
The only way we can gain Marriage Equality for ALL is to start having one-on-one conversations about it.
Come Out of the Closet
You don't have to be gay to be out: starting telling your friends, neighbors, co-workers and anyone who will listen that you support Same-Sex marriage.
Making it Personal
When talking about Marriage Equality you need to share a piece of yourself.
The Story of self is the reason behind why you support Same-Sex marriage. Telling your Story of Self is the means we use to connect with people. It's these connections that will enable us to change minds and open hearts about Same-Sex marriage.
My Story of Self
When I was younger some of my girlfriends would talk about how they couldn't wait until Prince Charming came knocking on their door and ask them to marry them. I just sat back and listened.
As I got older someone would announce they were engaged and were getting married. I never really cared about the wedding details BUT I was always interested in hearing about the proposal. A friend of mine told me that her boyfriend took her to a Dodger game and handed her a box of crackerjacks. When she opened the box there was a diamond engagement ring inside. I thought that was the coolest thing ever.
When I came out as a lesbian I realized I wanted to be the Prince Charming, that I wanted to be the one who proposes.
So when I realized Shannon was the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with I started saving my money to buy her an engagement ring.
After months and months of saving I finally bought the ring...now it was time for the proposal!
It was around Easter so on Easter morning I woke up early and put the ring in Shannon's Easter basket.
When we woke up I immediately said to her, "hurry up let's go see what the Easter bunny brought us!"
She humored me. She picked up the box I placed in her basket and she said, "what's in here?"
As she opened the box and saw the ring, I got down on one knee and asked her to marry me.
She said yes!
The reason why I am fighting so hard for Marriage Equality is because everyone should be able to propose to the person they love.
Your Turn
Think about how Marriage Equality personally affects you. It is because you want be able to see your child get married? It is because you want to marry the person you love? It is because your best friend has been in a long, committed relationship and deserves the right to marry.
Whatever your reason is...starting talking about!
The only way we can gain Marriage Equality for ALL is to start having one-on-one conversations about it.
Come Out of the Closet
You don't have to be gay to be out: starting telling your friends, neighbors, co-workers and anyone who will listen that you support Same-Sex marriage.
Making it Personal
When talking about Marriage Equality you need to share a piece of yourself.
The Story of self is the reason behind why you support Same-Sex marriage. Telling your Story of Self is the means we use to connect with people. It's these connections that will enable us to change minds and open hearts about Same-Sex marriage.
My Story of Self
When I was younger some of my girlfriends would talk about how they couldn't wait until Prince Charming came knocking on their door and ask them to marry them. I just sat back and listened.
As I got older someone would announce they were engaged and were getting married. I never really cared about the wedding details BUT I was always interested in hearing about the proposal. A friend of mine told me that her boyfriend took her to a Dodger game and handed her a box of crackerjacks. When she opened the box there was a diamond engagement ring inside. I thought that was the coolest thing ever.
When I came out as a lesbian I realized I wanted to be the Prince Charming, that I wanted to be the one who proposes.
So when I realized Shannon was the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with I started saving my money to buy her an engagement ring.
After months and months of saving I finally bought the ring...now it was time for the proposal!
It was around Easter so on Easter morning I woke up early and put the ring in Shannon's Easter basket.
When we woke up I immediately said to her, "hurry up let's go see what the Easter bunny brought us!"
She humored me. She picked up the box I placed in her basket and she said, "what's in here?"
As she opened the box and saw the ring, I got down on one knee and asked her to marry me.
She said yes!
The reason why I am fighting so hard for Marriage Equality is because everyone should be able to propose to the person they love.
Your Turn
Think about how Marriage Equality personally affects you. It is because you want be able to see your child get married? It is because you want to marry the person you love? It is because your best friend has been in a long, committed relationship and deserves the right to marry.
Whatever your reason is...starting talking about!
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Repealing Prop 8: Tough Conversations
Fired Up!
I have done the training, practiced the scenarios and I have had many conversations about Prop 8.
I left Camp Courage in East LA this weekend ready to go forth and continue the fight for marriage equality!
Out of the Blue
Today, I was sitting in a meeting with a client (who also happens to be a family member) and right in the middle of talking about the shopping cart functionality a discussion starts about Prop 8.
Realization
I realized that up until today I have really only had conversations with people who are supportive of same-sex marriages. I mean during my phone banking days I had some callers who told me they were voting yes on Prop 8 but I never really had a conversation with them.
I guess I have been lucky (or not).
Surprise!
So when the client said he voted yes on Prop 8 (after my initial shock) I thought about all my training. Stay calm, find out why, use persuasion and all that jazz.
I asked him, "How does my marriage to Shannon affect you?"
"Well it doesn't," he replied.
I preceded to ask why he voted yes. After he told me his reasons I used my "active listening" skills and said, "so it's the word marriage that you have a problem with?"
After some more questioning and me pointing out that before 1967 he wouldn't have been able to marry his wife (he is in an interracial marriage). He told me that, "marriage is between a man and woman." I replied, "so because Shannon and I have the same body parts we don't deserve to be married?"
We had some more back and forth then the conversation ended and I thanked him for discussing his views with me and for listening to what I had to say. He thanked me as well.
We hugged and then continued on with our work.
Baby Steps
I may not have changed his mind today but I KNOW I opened his heart.
What I learned today is the only way we are going to repeal prop 8 and gain marriage equality FOR ALL is having these kinds of tough conversations.
It isn't easy but it is necessary!
I have done the training, practiced the scenarios and I have had many conversations about Prop 8.
I left Camp Courage in East LA this weekend ready to go forth and continue the fight for marriage equality!
Out of the Blue
Today, I was sitting in a meeting with a client (who also happens to be a family member) and right in the middle of talking about the shopping cart functionality a discussion starts about Prop 8.
Realization
I realized that up until today I have really only had conversations with people who are supportive of same-sex marriages. I mean during my phone banking days I had some callers who told me they were voting yes on Prop 8 but I never really had a conversation with them.
I guess I have been lucky (or not).
Surprise!
So when the client said he voted yes on Prop 8 (after my initial shock) I thought about all my training. Stay calm, find out why, use persuasion and all that jazz.
I asked him, "How does my marriage to Shannon affect you?"
"Well it doesn't," he replied.
I preceded to ask why he voted yes. After he told me his reasons I used my "active listening" skills and said, "so it's the word marriage that you have a problem with?"
After some more questioning and me pointing out that before 1967 he wouldn't have been able to marry his wife (he is in an interracial marriage). He told me that, "marriage is between a man and woman." I replied, "so because Shannon and I have the same body parts we don't deserve to be married?"
We had some more back and forth then the conversation ended and I thanked him for discussing his views with me and for listening to what I had to say. He thanked me as well.
We hugged and then continued on with our work.
Baby Steps
I may not have changed his mind today but I KNOW I opened his heart.
What I learned today is the only way we are going to repeal prop 8 and gain marriage equality FOR ALL is having these kinds of tough conversations.
It isn't easy but it is necessary!
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